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friendshelpingfriends

 in response to cashay...   If you are waiting for a time when you will be sufficient financially before leaving, that is like saying when I win the lottery, then I will leave.

No one, and I mean no one, is ever financially free..... and as far as a burden goes, a burden to who.....

Again my dear friend, a cop out. If you were sincere about the situation you are truly in, you would find a way out. Trust me, been there, done that. And once you do leave, then you begin to rebuild and shoot for the goal of being financially free.

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Schmidty
 in response to char6...   Amen!
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Schmidty

 in response to cashay...   I am not attacking you , I'm trying to point out how scrambled your post are.you are trying to make money,you aren't trying to make money.You are looking for a house from Habitat.Your sons see themselves as being rich, they built Wealth Consciousness. Didn't you teach them to share and why aren't they helping you?If you are enting , you are venting, but it sounds as if you are just making stories up in hopes that people will buy it.

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Anonymous
 in response to cashay...   you seem to be very level headed about the whole thing so whatever your doing keep it up. If you have raised children with a self-worth and high self-esteem despite the dsyfunction of your husband, then my hat is off to you. I have worked in domestic violence shelters and unfortunately some women there got very comfortable with their situations because the abuse was not physical but mental , however it sometimes escalates to that. Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive.Sounds like you already know there is abuse going on and I wish you the best of luck in getting out of it eventually and leading a healthier existence
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Melrose05
 in response to lbart123...   Bart,
Thanks so much for your advice . It is greatly appreciated. So all I have to take them is my eviction notice? Are they open on Sunday? Sorry so many questions. I am just trying to figure this out. Thanks
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Anonymous
 in response to callinggodsangels...   As a domestic abuse survivor, I am gonna have to agree with Scmidty that what he said is just common sense, its not abuse and whats the difference anyway? She is choosing to continue to be victimized and opening herself up to others opinion when she voices it here. Perhaps what Scmidy tells her will be taken to heart and she will forget about trying to make money with the laws of attraction and get the hell out of the house with her life while she still has one. I believe that people need to stop coddling and counseling when its life or death, and sounds like it is, then she needs to open her eyes and go. Many have done it , IVE done it and it saved my life and my childrens. Im glad that someone gave me the push i need or I would have given excuse after excuse of why i wasnt leaving, or waiting for the perfect opportunity to leave. That day would have never come, I would have left in a body bag the same way she will leave if she doesnt do something quick. Her wanting to support herself is great however her immediate concern should be running as fast as she can in the other direction. Ive offered the info I have on the shelter in her area and she already knew exactly where it was "in case things get bad" so apparently things are not bad enough yet that she wants to leave so dont jump all over someone else who is tired of hearing how bad things are, but see's she doesnt really want a way out, just a "hand out"
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Schmidty
 in response to cashay...   Then why ask how to make money off of it. Refering to post 14702, then in post 14723 you mention about applying for a car and Habitat, you talk about applying for benefits and not getting them. You say you aren't asking for money, but it sure looks like you are building up to it.

If you just wanted to vent you wouldn't be so graphic, you'd be wanting out of that situation right now. There are domestic violence centers all over. If you were wanting out you'd get out.

Then , instead of asking how to get money and everything that you have applied for and not granted, yet. and you haven't gotten benefits for, you'd just tell everyone you are venting that you don't want help and leave it at that. Period.
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nee nee
hi ...i am in need of help to pay my light and gas bill. i am scheduled for shut off on 4/15/2011. i am unemployed at this time, due to a heart attack and heart surgery. i am an honest person and hope this site is for real. my gas bill is 800.00 but i need 685.00 to keep it on and my lights are 600.00.i need 368.00 to keep it on. i will be able to reimburse you in a few months when i have returned to work and get a few paychecks. thanking you in advance
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lbart123
 in response to Mimzy...   hi hon.
How beautifull i felt like i was on a beach as i read this,i felt so relax thank you so much,i did start to write a journie for my family,the only thing i fear of death is the pain of fighting for my breath,i did talk to my dr about it and he said he would keep me drugged up so i will go out like a happy camper,i have been searching into stem cell treatment for over a year,it seem like the best thing so far,but now i guess they are trying stents to open the airway and the testing will we done in 2012 so i pray it gets approvel if so it should be in the usa,when i get to feeling to depress i read the bible and then i get lost in my own little world thinking i cann't wait to go to heaven.i want you to know you did make me feel so relax a gain.
Thank you and god bless
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lbart123
 in response to cashay...   AND THEN YOU DO WHAT MY MOM DID TO GET OUT SHE TOOK A 357 MAGAIIUM AND PUT IT IN HER MOUTH.WITH MY 15 YEAR OLD SISTER IN THE OTHER ROOM,THEIR WAS 4 OF US DAUGHTERS,SHE FELT SHE HAD NO WAY OUT.THIS WAS IN 1971 AND I STILL REMENBER THAT DAY AS IF IT WAS TODAY,RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN,
GOOD LUCK
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lbart123
 in response to Melrose05...   Mel,
If you have a salvation army their and you take them you evection notice most times they will pay your rent for 1 month,allso if your only 1 month behind and didn;t go to court you can make your land load take you to court that will give you another 30 days or more,i know you would hate to do that but you have babies to think of.ask him for just a few more days.most landlord have lost income insurance on thier property,that he can recover..the reason i know this i have friends with rentals. good luck
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callinggodsangels
 in response to cashay...   sometimes you stay because your scared of what he says he will do to you and your children if you try to leave but leave you must and find a safe place to hide even if it means changing your name and moving to a faraway and new place to live. It is not easy to do and it takes the cooperation of other members of your family and friends that you trust will not tell him of your plans....I was lucky I had an army officer for a brother and he immediately got me well away from my ex. by the time he knew what had happened I was half way around the world staying with my sisterinlaw and other family members...if you lack the family help that I had every district attorneys office has a victims assistance program or can put you in touch with one and they can get you out, get you a counsler to work with you both before and after you leave, set you up with services and make sure you have a place to leave to...don't stay because no matter what you are thinking you only have a 30% chance of survival if you stay...you have 98% chance if you leave. Those odds are definately in your favor if you get yourself out now...for every day you stay they start to go down...you deserve better and you have the strength deep inside of you to get to the place where you need to be and get yourself out. I ask that anyone, not only cashay, who has found themselves in an abusive relationship please take to heart what I have said here don't waite until you are laying in a hospital room beaten within an inch of death, like I was, before you do something believe me when I tell you that it is not easy to go from tiny and timid mouse to large and dominant Lion but it definately can be done I am living proof of that very fact. And remember most importantly that you are worth your weight in gold, you have the strength you need, the courage to strike out on your own and you are a survivor because you have already survived the worst that will happen to you. and you can always message me and I can do all the looking up of numbers and sources of help if you can not. I will be praying for you to find your way down the path you must travel...
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callinggodsangels

 in response to Schmidty...   At the risk of sounding mean I have to say what is on my mind how do you think the abuse you just piled upon her head is any different than the one that her Tyrant dishes out on a daily basis. you started at the begining of your post and right down to the bottom you put her down and called her stupid and a coward. tell me sir how does that lift her up and honor her so that she will have the strength and support she needs to make one of the scariest and most dangerous moves of her life. Grow up and learn to encourage those who are down instead of being the final boot print on their back. One last thing to think about those of us who go through all of lifes chanllenges wether we are brave and stand up or scared and cowaring have a lot to offer as a life coach since we are the ones who start out cowaring in the corner then end up ruling the world and are well able to pass on the lessons we have learned.

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Anonymous

I'm tired. I sometimes wonder if I'll be like this for the rest of my life, living like this and seeing my mother sick and sad all the time. When ever I'm in street and look in how there are people who are smiling so easily with no worries or sadness...I wonder if I'll ever be like that. All i wish right now is to find someone or something to help us find a home we can afford. but my mom is out of money. and if we leave from where we currently are living at, i know we will end up in the street again. But i can't stand our roommates they don't let us sleep, breath or eat. They care only about making us feel bad and stealing from us. I want my own home, i place where i can feel free. a peaceful place. But i can't get a job and my moms job is so slow. I don't know from where we are going to get money from. i hate this.

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Schmidty
 in response to cashay...   My point exactly, and your point is?
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Schmidty

 in response to cashay...   I've read you post.i have looked but not studied the law of attraction.I don't remember anthing about being submissive, act like a slave, and put you kids through hades and you'll get what you think in your head. It seems as if you are living just the opposite.See your nearest domestic violence center. Quit being stupid.You get away from him and you will probably get the assistance.
Shouldn't you be able to think you have money and money will come to you. Law of Attraction 101.
Life coach? At what, crawling in the corner and wimpering like a dog that's been beaten then crawling back and licking his boots?

Sounds like a fraud to me, are you sure you haven't been on here before,you can't be for real.

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mamashe/sheshe
 in response to cashay...   Cashay:--I have been reading most of your posts for the lst few days and I must say I do no understand why you are still living with this jerk that your term the "tyrant" your children are not little kids anymore in fact you only one that is still considered a child. Your kids are able to take care of themselves but it's up to ou to get yourself and your kids out of what seems like a slaves existance. What are you waiting for? He isn't going to give you any money to leave him so get his keys again and ;ile your kids and your clothes and get the hell out of there. You have nothing to lose, nothing....So put on your big girl pants on and suck it up and be a mom to your kids, they didin't ask to have him as a father, your the one that is stopping yourself so stop with all the complaining and whining and stand up and be the strong woman you were meant to be and let no man ever hurt you or your kids again. mamashe/sheshe
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Anomaly
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KRIXI2011
i dont know where to start i have am lost, single mom going to be 34 in just a week, mother of four children i work but limited in time and hours to the needs of my nine year old, he has aspergers,ADHD and has mutilple mood disorders. his father, my xhusbnd does nothing but take him for three weeks during the summer, and the court system has failed me he olny pays 55 dollars a month in child support a month. I was told that my cancer is not treatable at least i havent found the right doctor yet i guess because i cant accept the option i have been given. I try to stay ahead but i made a mistake and helped out a friend when i got my taxes this years, i had faith they would pay me back and now... my bank account has been compromised due to said friend... my rent check , electric, and three others just bounced... I am in need of any help Deposit check $550, rent $650, electric / gas $218, phone $45, and one for $88 for walmart (household stuff)... now i dont know what to do i really am lost.... i have no family and though i have great friends most are is boats similar to me and as much as i dont like asking for help for the sake of my children i and willing to swallow my pride. i have to 4-15-11 to have 500 for the deposit and 4-22-11 to have the rent 650 or we are going to be put out of this new place we are in :( I just dont know what to do any more thank you for listening to me ramble.
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tested2
 in response to cashay...   A free car how does that work me and my friend need one for real I cannot drive and I have gotten lucky my sister lets my niece keep the car sometimes and she stayed one time at the er others dropped me off my sister too alright the house good luck I meant like benefits or something with all your health problems.
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