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Hand this battle over to God he's never lost a single battle and never will...let him go to battle for you if you want to win!!!
Stop all "cover ups." Family members often make excuses to others or try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking. It is important to stop covering for the alcoholic so that he or she experiences the full consequences of drinking.
Time your intervention. The best time to talk to the drinker is shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred--like a serious family argument or an accident. Choose a time when he or she is sober, both of you are fairly calm, and you have a chance to talk in private.
Be specific. Tell the family member that you are worried about his or her drinking. Use examples of the ways in which the drinking has caused problems, including the most recent incident.
State the results. Explain to the drinker what you will do if he or she doesn't go for help--not to punish the drinker, but to protect yourself from his or her problems. What you say may range from refusing to go with the person to any social activity where alcohol will be served, to moving out of the house. Do not make any threats you are not prepared to carry out.
Get help. Gather information in advance about treatment options in your community. If the person is willing to get help, call immediately for an appointment with a treatment counselor. Offer to go with the family member on the first visit to a treatment program and/or an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.
Call on a friend. If the family member still refuses to get help, ask a friend to talk with him or her using the steps just described. A friend who is a recovering alcoholic may be particularly persuasive, but any person who is caring and nonjudgmental may help. The intervention of more than one person, more than one time, is often necessary to coax an alcoholic to seek help.
Find strength in numbers. With the help of a health care professional, some families join with other relatives and friends to confront an alcoholic as a group. This approach should only be tried under the guidance of a health care professional who is experienced in this kind of group intervention.
Get support. It is important to remember that you are not alone. Support groups offered in most communities include Al-Anon, which holds regular meetings for spouses and other significant adults in an alcoholic's life, and Alateen, which is geared to children of alcoholics. These groups help family members understand that they are not responsible for an alcoholic's drinking and that they need to take steps to take care of themselves, regardless of whether the alcoholic family member chooses to get help.
You can call the National Drug and Alcohol Treatment Referral Routing Service at 1-800-662-HELP for information about treatment programs in your local community and to speak to someone about an alcohol problem.
Because of chronic insomnia, heart failure, fibromyalgia, and arthritis, I am unable to work even 36 hrs a week. In fact, I generally manage only 28-30 hrs of pay each week.
My workplace has FMLA, and I've been on it for several years. Unfortunately, this year I didn't qualify because I was barely at work at all during the first quarter of CY10. I know that I can re-apply in a few months time, but I'm not sure that's practical at this juncture.
What I need is any information about financial aid for single, disabled women. I have a good job; I'm just unable to be there enough. I'm too young (61) for Social Security retirement and federal disability would mean I couldn't work at all (i.e., there IS NO "partial" disability).
I live in New Mexico. Does anyone have any information for me to check out (state or federal)?
Thanks very much,
We planned a trip to the USA for a long time as we wanted to celebrate wedding anniversary and my husband`s birthday. Unfortunately my husband didn't receive the visa for a long time, he was checked, cose he works in IT. As a result we have arrived, as tourists only in the middle of November. I was pregnant and should give birth in the middle of December. After an arrival I have felt that it is heavy to me to go on foot and we have decided to cancel a trip and stay in New York for a week, and than come back home. When we have come to airline with the request to change tickets for earlier dates, they refused and have told that I won't plant aboard the plane in any case but in Russia I was guaranteed transportation 7 days and after the delivery. We have rented a room in Bronx and in the end of December I have given birth to a daughter. As a result of a patrimonial trauma the child was born with hypoxic-ischemic encephalopathy. When we have arrived, we had savings which we planned to spend for 3 weeks. We live on these savings 3 months and we will more than happy to any help cose we should be observed to stay here minimum half-year as doctors insists, but we are ready to stay here forever cose our daughter needs the professional support . We perfectly understand what to ask for the money every month is impossible, but we are really in need. The best exit for us would be the legal work for my husband (or for me, I am marketing and advertising specialist). He worked more than 14 years in IT as: Lead Security Engineer, Senior Network Security Engineer, Information Security Engineer, Network Engineer, Unix/Windows NT Administrator. He is a hardworker and you`ll never be disappointed if you`ll hire him. But we`ll be very appreciate everybody for any help/advice/support.
Sometimes you have to intervene on their behalf. If he doesn't want treatment then he will not go.
See this for some help. If he won't go at least you can check it out to learn more about being an alcoholic.
Every city has rehab places and there is quite a few in California and they range from low cost to costly.
And you can check with your local hospital to see if they have anything available.
Finally, I have Founded an Organization (thanks be to God for the direction and vision) to help other's find Faith through Love filled with Hope. I have named it Ozarks Homeless Gear.
Ozarks Homeless Gear collects unwanted outdoor gear (packs, sleeping bags, etc) and re-distributes them to the homeless. We intend to find a home for all unwanted outdoor gear and make the outdoors a little more like home for those without permanent shelter.
Ozarks Homeless Gear is currently working on drop-off and distribution locations through-out the Ozarks. If interested in becoming a drop-off or distribution location (or if you know of a business, church, etc. that may be interested) or if you have Gear to donate please contact Dawn Marie Sipes by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 417-501-6467.
Please help us spread the word about Ozarks Homeless Gear to your family, friends and connections. This is largely a grass roots effort and we depend heavily on word of mouth to help spread our message. Ozarks Homeless Gear is all about collecting unwanted outdoor gear and redistributing these items to the homeless.
Visit our website today (still being added to so please be patient) to find out more...
Thank you all and God Bless!
Dawn Marie Sipes
Hope this helps.