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 in response to janasdreams...   A different spin for white collars:  Rather than a resume, build a profile on a professional networking site, such as  And, it is very appropriate to post a photo on your profile.  People can judge you electronically, or in person.

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if anyone can find or know someone who is a private renter and can find me a place somewhere in everett heck just washington. i need somewhere fast! we have to be out by april first and i have looked everywere papers and craigslist. no one will rent to me with a eviction it was 3+ years ago. i have 2 small babies and i cant be homeless i dont know what to do i need help. i have a lady i have been living with and i have paid 400 a month in rent on time every month i cant live here anymore due to changes shes making. so we have to move. please
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 in response to ICEVERYTHING...   


This is great info!!!!

thanks for sharing this with us.

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 in response to ICEVERYTHING...   Reply to Mr Iceverything:---Your advice on how to present a resume is priceless. Maybe more aidmates and visitors will have better luck securing gainful employment by reading and putting your advice into practice. Your a very welcomed addition to aidpage and I hope you like us enough to stick around and maybe we can help each other. Thanks again, Sincerely Sheshe030
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I would like to start a horse stable where children could come to learn.  I would also love to be able to help children and adults with special needs to be given therapy on horse back.  Are there any grants out there that I could apply for?

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 in response to ICEVERYTHING...   Yes, this is very good advice and it is true watch what you put on the internet regarding yourself. I know a lot of people will benefit from this advice as they forge on to look for work. Thanks for sharing and being here..
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 in response to Rosie327...   ever so resourceful, visited the website its leka
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 in response to ICEVERYTHING...   Wow, this is very informative thanks a lot!
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 in response to Starrshine...   hey sweetie how r u just wanted to let u know i will pray for u
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 in response to 21 and mom of twins...   there are some places that will house u like met housing if u go live in a homeless shelter it does not take them long to house u,i know it sucks n i will pray for u also try to see if there is anyone that is lookin for a roomate wit kids it worth a try
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hey sweety give me a shout out at my e mail about those free sample web sites i will gladly accept anything i can right thank u

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Ways of landing an interview in tough times:  From someone who has landed jobs and also recruited and hired in difficult economic times (not to repeat all the info on the web, but here are some tips that I know work - most applicable to white collar jobs):

1.  If your resume is not accompanied by a very specific cover letter (one that lines up your skills with the job advertised),  your odds of making it to the top of the pile are slim.  Remember:  The hiring manager isn't the one scanning for qualified applicants, it's usually an admin person.  Make it easy and make it clear you are 100% qualified (create a matrix of the skills required vs. how you satisfy them).  You'll increase your odds of making the short list.

2.  If a job posting has a fax# (or you can look the company up and find their fax #), fax your resume and cover letter.  People rarely do this, and a hard copy will be get more of a glance than an electronic version. Write a handwritten note on the cover page to personalize it.

3.  If the job posting has a hiring manager and phone number posted (rare, but it does happen), take the initiative to call (PLAN what you are going to say beforehand!).  You might catch them off guard, but you'll be remembered when resumes are being reviewed (and make sure you're remembered for the right reasons - that's an entirely different topic!).

4.  Communicate the value you've provided in past employment, and the value an employer can expect.  Don't just put together a chronological resume that states "did this, did that".  It should be more like "did this, and the benefit was X".  It's hard to do, and most people aren't comfortable with it, but it makes a difference.  You have to WOW employers (you're one of many desperate for the job). 

5.  Toss away the notion of the one page resume.  Unless you know the hiring person, it's not necessarily a good thing if it prevents you from telling all of your valuable history.  Instead, write a rock solid cover letter that is very concise (see item #1).  Whet their appetite, and they'll look at the remaining detail.

6.  Rather than respond blindly to any opportunity with a generic approach, take control of your job search and get organized.  Make a list of the companies you would like to work for and research them.  Read their financials online (Yahoo business, for example) and read their executive bios.  Create your case for why they should hire you.  Then, start to find a way to get into that company (see next item).

7.  The approach to getting an introduction to a company will vary between white collar and blue collar.  A walk-in isn't unheard of in either case and might work best for blue collar jobs.  Believe it or not, if your proposition is compelling enough, you can get a second look with an email subject line that grabs their attention.  For example, I landed an interview once by emailing the CEO of a former competitor that read something like "Used to compete with you and never lost".  Getting the CEO's email address was via simple guesswork (I researched the corporate website, used google, and once I found the naming convention they used, took a swag at the name and sent it off).  Sometimes, it is best to email a VP since CEO's often have their email scanned by an admin (VP names and bios are usually listed in the "about" section of a corporate website).

8.  Do your homework - if you have a name (either provided through networking, research, or an arranged interview), learn as much as you can about that person on the web and find a subtle way to relate (for example, if you find they went to Penn State, and you did also, it's a means to make a connection).  Spokeo has proven very useful in researching business contacts or job applicants (although, there is an annual fee).

9.  Research your web presence.  THIS IS HUGE.  An employer will - at a minimum - google your name and look for any dirt on you, and how you present yourself in public.  I've researched nannies and job applicants this way and 50% of the time, I find something that puts me off.  Example:  Constant use of the "F-bomb" on twitter; photos with a recurring partying theme (i.e., all photos with alcohol in your hand); any photos that show you in "less-than-classy" attire or situation; Twitter posts that make it sound like you don't have it together.  Clean up your web presence NOW.  An employer most likely won't tell you what they find if it's negative, but they will just fall off the radar.  Also, create a NEW PROFESSIONAL sounding email address for all job related communications (a new account won't have any links to any past social sites you may have created a profile on).  Additionally, find ways to get your name on the web as a subject matter expert (sign-up for user groups, bulletin boards, etc. and post advice on a regular basis - make sure it's able to be linked back to you via name or email address). Make sure everything you post on the internet puts you in a positive light.

10.  Develop a "Try it before you buy it" proposal.  Come up with some compelling and creative way for the hiring manager to try you out.  It can be a challenge (like "review our website and recommend improvements"), or a fixed amount of time (there are some cities offering a program for the unemployed to work for free for 30 days, with the option of retaining the person after that period.....many are retained). What do you have to lose except time (which you have plenty of, if you are unemployed).  At a minimum, you might learn a new skill, or get a great reference out of it that can help you bridge to a better opportunity.  Here is a great article about someone who used this approach:


I found a site that will send you coupons and samples for baby and kid items.  If you're interested respond with a private message and I'll send you the link so you can sign up! - Rosie

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 in response to Late bloomer...   Which comment is neither "here" nor "there"?  Mine or yours?  I don't understand the point of your abstract comment, to be honest. 

I'm not suggesting people stop posting.  I'm suggesting that rather than consider every item of advice thrown over the fence, that people give credibility some thought.  I can imagine it is extremely overwhelming to receive so many ideas in a desperate situation.  I offer the same advice I would offer a friend:  Consider the source and follow those that seem to have done it, or have some credibility.  Of course people often follow what they are comfortable with (how many times do people take relationship advice from a close friend who has a string of failed relationships).  


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 in response to ICEVERYTHING...   

This is neither here nor there, sometimes people come to this page in desperation, they then share their problems,and leave in a huff. It would be nice and neat to know the outcome of our friends but then a frustrated person's reasoning is clouded by their dilemma.Those giving/sharing survival skills are doing so in good spirit, am afraid we shall always be tagged by these loose ends as long as we are human beings. Shalom

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Thoughts on "taking advice":   It's very easy to give advice here, but if you are the recipient, always follow-up with "and what have you done to prove this advice results in success?". 

Would you take financial advice from a bankrupt accountant?  No.  

People tend to have an easier time giving good advice than following it.  The true definition of success is not only giving sound advice, but demonstrating it.

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 in response to Late bloomer...   I am no expert but the way I see this is you have to have truly walked in someones shoes to know what they are really going through.  Sometimes these posts are so overwelming for me.  I sure feel for everyone.  May the Lord keep each and everyone of you safe.   I wish each and everyone of you Health,Wealth,and lots of prosperty.  In my personal life when you feel good good things happen.  Focus on what you don't have and you will receive more of that.  I'm truly grateful for what I have.  Lord knows I have gone through my worst nightmares.  It made me a stronger person.  Sure some people can be cruel what I learned from this is I look at it from a different perspective.  Cruel people will just draw in more cruelness in their lives.  Be kind to everyone you never know you may be talking to an angel unaware.  God bless everyone
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